When you become leaders/managers you tend to use “Do this” phrase and rightly so as that falls under the profile. “Do this” is a very important phrase to get the things done but there is a better effective phrase, a little costlier and time taking but with high dividends, “Do this because”. I have seen that most of the managers don’t take time to explain the reason behind the steps taken. It applies to entrepreneurs/HR managers too.
Lets take an example: “Don’t use Personal Yahoo messengers in Office”, this is so obvious, we all know the reasons as well. But still many a times we ignore our subconscious knowledge. These are different approaches to get the work done in a better way.
- Do it method – “Don’t use Personal Yahoo messengers in Office”
- Do it because method – “Did you know that a small message only disturbs you for 3 seconds while it takes another 10 seconds to get back to work, after observing some team members we are not allowed to use personal yahoo messengers any more, Sorry for inconvenience to some”.
- Help us decide method: – “Did you know that a small message only disturbs you for 3 seconds while it takes another 10 seconds to get back to work, after observing some team members we are in a doubt to understand the use of yahoo messenger in our office. Should we be using it? Do we have any major advantages for it?”
There are various methods to make the same work effective. Approach is a very important part of our life. As we grow up in ladder, our decisions starts affecting more people, so we need to be using a better approach all the time. This is not diplomacy but a good approach allows you correct your mistake as well. Sometimes after following the third method “Help us decide method”, we may allow yahoo messengers again in office.
There is another aspect to this, when you describe the “because” part, the “do this” part becomes obvious and people tend to do it as a practice rather than a rule. Good night, will try to post more next Saturday (my official off days 🙂 ) .. Happy week ahead
what happens if it all leads to big discussion with different opinions and no conclusion !!
>> what happens if it all leads to big discussion with different opinions and no conclusion !!
Thats where the leaders/managers play their roles. They are there to make a decision. If method 3 (or the better one) is not producing a result, shift to method 2 or method 1 and get the work done. Just assuming that method 3 will create no conclusion is not a healthy assumption.
so why not go with the option 1 in the first place and avoide all the confusion!! hahahaha
BTW, howz u? : – )
[Aji: Commented edited, written some sick comment, I will pray for your sickness]
Thats your opinion as always. Fearing and running away from others opinion at the very first place is not a sign where people trust and respect. People are really smart to suggest better option.
>> BTW, howz u? : – )
Thanks, I am fine. How are you? I have worked with you for quite some time now, by now you must have realized my technical skills too :), don’t burn your fingers unnecessarily. Happy foundation day and take good care of your new added responsibilities.
Hi Aji I have been an avid reader of your blog. Though I didn’t comment earlier but followed your blog regularly.
In my opinion the point raised by this amr >>>>what happens if it all leads to big discussion with different opinions and no conclusion !! is just a reflection of his or her perception. You know what he or she thinks of the opinions raised by others. As iam a psychiatrist by profession I can conclude that this person is a very authoritative kinda person who shrugs off the ideas of others as “shit”. As a result no one probably respects amr and he/she needs a place to prove that “Yes I have ideas too!!” or “listen to me”. Basically such people are attention seekers and go to great extents to grab attention.
They basically need psychiatric help. I really feel sorry for such patients. World is sometimes cruel to them. They even commit suicide.