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Spirituality is not boring – We generally drink the strongest

The blogger in me is still alive :). Just got a mail from Guy Kawasaki as a reply for an interview request and was going through his blog after some real long time. I got this link for his blog http://www.mppcfamily.org/app/w_page.php?id=49&type=section (Warning: A spiritual website, please don’t visit if you think you are not spiritual 🙂 ). I heard some minutes and I thought of recommending it to others. Don’t worry, its not going to hurt you :).

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These days I am working on http://www.SEOforClients.com, will explain more about it in a week time. I was searching inside me and asking me this question again and again, “What the hell I want to do in my life?” (Dare you ask anyone else, you will get all philosophical talks, ask yourself the simple way and keep asking). I am almost there (I think I am almost there), will let you know. Concerning Spirituality, we have made spirituality too scary for many (As we offer the strongest drinks, “Don’t do any evil or you will go to hell“). Every time I talk to a non spiritual man about spirituality, I feel comfortable but when I talk to a spiritual person (few exceptions are there) about the same, I feel a little scared of hitting the wrong toe. I am scared of people who are taught spirituality by others but I have so much respect for people who have learned spirituality, from their own experiences and other’s experiences.

According to me, spirituality is a lot different and amazingly attractive. I don’t see it to be boring. It becomes boring when it becomes a religion, a community affair, a ritual. I am a Christan and I strongly believe in the teachings and the law but I don’t forget to check the context of the content. At http://mysoul.in/, I did say (and I repeat it here) that “At times we feel that spirituality is boring and only for some but in reality, we all are born with great level of spirituality. Spirituality is very personal according to me”.

I thought of writing very little but the hands are moving really fast, in this last para I will share some of the things I learned from Bible that changed (and is changing) my life in amazingly positive way:

  1. Don’t judge others: (Matt 7:1-3)
    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” I have realized that at many times we judge others with the very little information we have. I keep using this sentence in my professional life (esp during interview rejections), “I am no one to judge you whether you are good or bad but just based on the interview I feel, its completely my personal opinion, may not be right, that currently there are better candidates available for this job profile. So, I am saying a no to you. I again repeat, that its not how good you are but how better you were in this current competition for the current profile. Thanks.”. At times we need to take a decision but there are many many occasions where we sit of the Judge’s chair unnecessarily.
  2. Forgive and you will be forgiven: (Luke 6:37) – Spirituality is a lot more about sacrifice. I feel you can’t forgive without a sacrifice. Someone pushes you out of the queue and takes the taxi. You deserved it, you should have got it but ……. Even if you shout at the person, its all legal and accepted. But forgiving needs a lot more, it needs to be practiced. From my experience I can tell you that I feel a lot better when I smile at the person and say, “Ok! May God bless you. I will take the next cab”. I am selfish and I forgive as I feel better 🙂 and it allows me to focus on better things in life.
  3. Hey we are all different: (Romans 14:15) “If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died.” I think I haven’t read any powerful message than this about spirituality. It needs a whole new post to describe this.
  4. There is a God and it is not you. God came to love and give life, not to destroy you 🙂 (John 3:16) – “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,[a] that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”
  5. Its not about perfection but the journey towards it.
  6. Lets not do good for rewards but do good as it is good. (Reaching this level is a dream for all of us. I don’t want to do good to go to heaven but I want to do good as it is good.)
  7. Spirituality can’t be taught but it can be learned.
  8. Anything that doesn’t change you from inside is just an attempt that hasn’t produced the desired result. Try again. (If by going to Church, you haven’t changed yourself from inside then go again and again till you don’t change yourself from inside. Going to Church and changing yourself from inside, both go hand in hand and is more important when taken together)

Ok, enough! I am just too simple to share advance thoughts on spirituality. You might like to visit http://www.mppcfamily.org/app/w_page.php?id=49&type=section at times. Have a very safe and blessed week. Do let us know if you have any prayer request (I believe in praying, register and put your prayer request or even feel free to drop an email.) Thanks.

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Oh valentine! Oh love! LOVE IsA NON-SPREADSHEETAL

I was going through Abhirupa’s post titled “Some say love is“, so thought of writing this valentine post. (btw I love the whole song collection, check this out “Love can build a bridge“).

Last Sunday was quite special, it was a pre-valentine day (and next Sunday is “what after valentine”) and the speaker talked about “Valentine day” (You can also read the chapter talking about Love and the whole book by Solomon). So what is it all about? Love? Gifts? Proposing? Expectations? or just a buzzyy?? Who careesssssss, let no other person defines what it means to you but you, you alone.

Where is love? Where is love :)?

When I wrote “Oh valentine! Oh love! Oh you lover”, I wanted to write about what love is. Here I am talking about love between an Adam and an Eve. The love between adams and eves are special as it is one which comes with a lot of choices when compared to parental or sibling love with one option. You are free to choose your lover (oh really!). You build a lot of expectation around this love line and almost make it over fictionalized. Still it is a special one, gifted to you by chance but it is your responsibly to work it out well till the end, so here I go:

Love is

  1. is a feeling: You can’t always express it in words, it is something you feel. “Are you in love?” is sometimes the most difficult question thrown at you. Verbal communication is also important but not a must (esp for Indian culture). The eyes says it all. The touch communicates it deeper and the separation(explained deep missing) explains all. You can take this valentine’s day and say it in your special way, “I love you! I really do“.
  2. is always one sided: When you love someone, it starts as one sided only. All the FOSLA members can redefine their clubs.
  3. is a little deeper than liking: I may start linking something about a person but to love that person it goes a little deeper. Love sometimes (most of the times) starts by getting attracted to something you like but it doesn’t stop there. It was just a beginning of something wonderful.
  4. is a COMMITMENT: Oh this is my favorite one. Love can start by chance but you cant stay in love by chance, it has to be, by choice, by commitment. Love is very strong but the lovers need to reach closer to true love with every moment, every step. Every fight makes it stronger, every dinner together renews it.
  5. is selfless: I don’t matter in love, it is more about your love and then we.
  6. is great understanding: It stands on understanding. I like this quote, “Sometimes love ain’t nothing but a misunderstanding between two well understood fools”.
  7. is strength: It gives you a lot of strength and IT IS TRUTH. When you are in love, don’t be afraid, just stand firm and say I am in love.
  8. is change: It brings a lot of changes in you. You start changing yourself to make the feeling grow and stay.
  9. is sacrificial: I don’t want to use the word sacrifice, I still want to say the word commitment and responsibility. You leave something, you change something but all is for good. You can still leave everything to make your love happy.
  10. is not for intelligent people: They can never understand these feelings, its ROI and the whole purpose of it. So never ever try to explain an intelligent person what love is and probably you wont have to explain it to a fool who ever been in love as he/she will understand through your eyes.
  11. is NOT COMPETITIVE: hell with those who says, see what his lover did or her lover did. You don’t want to buy a gift so that others can see and your social points for being a lover increases. I will choose to be a fool in front of the society to be the smartest guy for my love.
  12. is Open: There is nothing that one need to hide. You can feel very comfortable is saying, “Honey! I messed it up, Sorry”. Don’t lie but accept the faults :).

I wanted to write a lot about it but I need to reach office before the day starts shining really hard. I will conclude the part 1 of the series by calling LOVE A NON-SPREADSHEETAL. Love never keeps an account of bad things, it keeps erasing everything bad from your books/spreadsheets. “That day you said this”, “year and a half past since you said a sorry” and so on. Don’t keep an account of your love activities, let is flow smooth. Don’t define, don’t plan, don’t copy but just be honestly-committed-oneSidedly-selflessly in love.
HAPPY VALentine Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some relevant recent blog posts I read:

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In love there is Honeymoon period and sometimes sun stoke periods too.