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Rule Vs Purpose of rule – Religion Vs Jesus way

This speech was so much inline with the post that I could not ignore posting the video on Youtube (which is against the rules, just hoping that many will benefit from it).

Religion Vs Jesus way


It says, “if people ask you about following Jesus and you come up with 100 do’s and don’t then seriously you have messed it up ….. if coming to church becomes more important than loving your wife/children/neighbor then you are missing something … Sabbath is made for men but not men for sabbath” …. Do see the video, it teaches you so much about religion vs Jesus.

What is rule vs purpose of rule?

Do you remember my post http://www.seoforclients.com/hr/break-rules-often/ (Why do I break rules so often?)? I will give you a simple example: When a company starts, it starts with almost no rules, people come at any time, work anytime and return back anytime. Everybody knows what others are doing and most of them are fully committed to work but as and when the company grows you will get people manipulating the timings and there comes the rule, 9 to 6 rules. You need to come to the office by 9:00 else you will be marked half day and so on.

Now look at the scenario? There is a person who did not get enough sleep till 3 am and in order to be in office at 9:00, he need to get up at 7:00. He will feel much better if he can sleep till 9 am and comes to the office at 11am. If he comes to the office at 9am with just 4 hours of sleep it will neither be good for the company nor for himself. Now the rule says “9 am”, purpose of the rule says “work effectively” … the owner of the office will certainly agree about the person coming at 11am and finishing his work effectively but the keepers of the law will kill his day for coming late. What if the person always comes late but is going his job (this guy has problem at home and can’t sleep early, I faced it with some people).

Why we don’t allow exceptions in rules?

Simply to make sure that people are not misusing the exceptions. Though rules are not meant for everyone but it should be followed by everyone for the SAKE OF NO-Partiality. I had always been a partial (Showing favoritism) leader. I showed partiality based on the performance irrespective of what the non-performers say. When the performers go out of their ways to help the company, why can’t the company go out of the ways to help these performers. HELL with non-performers who check on what I got and what other got. I have seen that performers are too busy getting the thing done and hardly bothers about what others are getting. He/She should get what he/she deserves :).

Some people will never change

Even after the rules (which are meant to correct the bad people), the bad people will never change, they will find loopholes and will keep manipulating the system. In a society we are not able to throw all of them off and are forced to have laws but in an office we can certainly go with minimum laws.

When it comes to religiously following laws, it becomes dangerous

Some people follow rules religiously and are after everyone who doesn’t follow it. Example: “(Debatable) Women are suppose to cover their heads while praying. At times some of our new members don’t do it. The people who did not cover their head are praying sincerely and the religious people are thinking and looking at the person without the head cover judgmentally. They messed up their prayers by just being judgmental. Also they made an opinion about the person with a non-religious label. BUT DIDN’t Bible also say “Don’t Judge others”?“.

There comes the community, community of religious people based on rules. “We don’t do this so we are separate from others, we come early so we are the most sincere employees, we brought a card for mom on valentines day so we love mom better and so on ” BUT WHAT ABOUT THE PURPOSE OF THE LAW.

(Once Jesus was asked) “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew- 22:36-40

It is important to follow rules

It is important to follow rules but more important to understand the purpose of the rule and follow the purpose of the rule.

Understand rule from the context

Always remember the context of the rule. When was the rule made? What was the purpose of the rule? Who made it? etc …. There are people wearing white on Sundays (thats great), it started in a part of India as that was there culture, white was official. You follow the rule but don’t make it rule above the purpose of attending church. “Don’t make it uncomfortable for others who are not in white”.

Inspire don’t force rules

People do a a better job when they know why they are doing it. So inspire others not force on others. “If celebrating valentine day is bad for Indian culture then come up with the reasons, inspire your fellow brothers and sisters not to go for it BUT WHY THE HELL YOU NEED TO FORCE ON THE PEOPLE. Isn’t you breaking the bigger law of hitting your own brothers and sisters.”

Rules are subject to change, add exceptions

There is no rule that is perfect. There are purposes/themes that are perfect. “You need to work sincerely for your office” is a perfect theme but you need to work from 9am to 6pm is an imperfect rule. There are times when you will need to add exceptions to make the rule more effective and easy on performers. 9am to 6pm atleast 15 days of the month, you can come late with the permission of the team leader, star performers will get exceptions in the rules etc etc.

Enjoy the rule but do understand the purpose of the rule 🙂

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We always want cloning, big hinderance in life

This has been one of my personal learning in professional life esp at recruitment level. We always expect others to behave like us, work like we do, talk like we do and everything else possibly like a clone. This is so much against the rule of our own existence and identity. We all are given different circumstances and we all have our own learning and thus we all expect to act differently.

In my early days of interviews (way back in 2004-2005), I used to expect programmers to be of certain nature. I expected them to have certain backgrounds. I expected them to know few things. It wasn’t wrong until I realized the prejudice behavior in me. I would have judged the candidate even before they step in for interview. It almost stopped me from hiring a person with different talents, which was such a disadvantage for your team. I could come out of it really soon (thanks to the Church teaching and great books on HR).

There are people who want their clones everywhere, at office (all the people should dress in my own approved way, work and behave like me), at home (my wife, husband, father, mother, relatives should talk and behave as per my own set of rules) and at other places (friends should only do things that are permitted by my own laws).

Why expecting a clone is big hindrance in life?

  1. It certainly prevents you from getting diverse dimensions in your team/life.
  2. It prevents others to be free with you.
  3. It prevents you to acknowledge the good things done by others as you will always be busy comparing your clone properties with others.
  4. It certainly increases our prejudice level (have an Influenced opinion in advance).

Most importantly, it prevents you from being happy

Oh, bet on it! We will never be happy if we expect clones. We will never be happy with our relatives who will shout loud on a six and licks their hand after eating. During the whole span of interaction, we will keep looking for differences and will get annoyed with everything that doesn’t matches with our rules. I always smile at people who are working so hard to change their parents. It is their wish that their parents matches with their status (I don’t know for what reason). Personally, I also used to try (even today I try explaining things from my perspective) to change a lot with my parents, friends, teams etc but now I enjoy their uniqueness and will always allow them to be what they are comfortable with. I enjoy the way they are. I don’t have wrong expectations from them.

Enjoy the difference

We all are different and it is so important that we enjoy our differences (and learn from others). Now I have started enjoying the difference. I enjoy when our relatives at KFC will spill the burger filling here and there, I enjoy when my friends jump on my bed with their dirty legs (grrr…) ……

Hey after-all life is not about rules, rules are good but certainly life is not only about rules. Don’t get too much tied up with your own rules (expecting your clones everywhere), enjoy the differences and be happy that you have people who come and break your rules :).

Next video is a great video, Religion vs Jesus way (I will be writing about rules and the purpose of rules).

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What is more important, Personality or Character? Unprepared is the key

This has been a big debate for years. Personality gets the thing done, character adds the sincerity to it. (Please don’t confuse it with the moral character of a person :))

Let’s take two example to understand:

  1. Giving one speech: Person X can just memorize the speech, get the speech from someone else and practice it enough to look it really real. Judges are judging it on the basis of Person ‘s presentation skill (personality) irrespective of whether Person X feels a damn about the words spoken. Character is when the person puts his opinion that he/she feels is correct. Person Y may have worked in the field has a lot to say from real life examples and so on. (Who will win the competition?) (Probably Person X, I have written many speeches for people, when I write, I write it from my feelings but when the person says it, it is merely the presentation.)
  2. Donating food to poor: Person X is very well dressed in white and is put all the things to be labeled as the best spiritual leader. He distributes the food as he was accompanying a friend. Person Y is also very well dressed but he is doing it as he feels about the poor. (Was there any difference between feeling for poor and just showing off? Probably not)

In both the above example’s Person X and Person Y has used their personalities to do the work. The inner feeling can be termed as Character (motive/feeling behind the action). So is personality more important or character?

Now lets take Person X and Person Y again.

  1. Surprise Speech and Q&A: There was a surprise speech on a similar topic. Person X fall short of words and ideas whereas Person Y is more comfortable with the speech. Even in the Q&A, Person Y does better than Person X (assuming that none of them prepared for the Q&A sessions)
  2. Need volunteer for regular food distribution for poor local organization Who will volunteer for this poor local organization? Probably Person Y as Person X was doing it without much feeling and Person Y feels about poor.

    So what is more important personality of character?
    I always advocated for both. Personality is required for a short term with short conversation impact whereas without character personality can fade out soon. At many times you don’t need character level work (Example: Presentation on goat (assuming that you are not in a goat business)), you just need to prepare enough so that you can score good marks in this presentation.

    But you will have to learn at character level for your related topic. When a student of marketing put a presentation on niche marketing, the purpose behind the presentation is that the person learns niche marketing really well, he/she will have to learn it in deep. Even after the presentation the person should go back and learn it at a character level. If the student doesn’t learn it at character level then later in some stage he/she will face a surprise question on niche marketing with some goodies for effective answers. For the presentation you may not be able to learn niche marketing at character level, for the presentation you just need to do enough at personality level to get enough marks.

    What is personality and character?

    Personality is the part of action that gets the work done. Character is the part of action that works behind the action. Some important points about personality and character:

  1. Personality is what makes the character: When you visit the orphanage you may not feel anything but your personality (where you went to orphanage) helps you see a lot of things, experience a lot of things and then teaches your self (Character part) about the importance of working with them. When you visit again and again, you may start feeling it from inside. Another example is: When you read a book or topic, you may not understand it but reading it again and again can make you a master of it. Reading is personality and understanding it is character.
  2. Character alone is useless: What if you feel for poor (Character level) but never takes an action (personality) to help them. What if you understand the subject like nobody else (Character level) but can’t explain it or use it (personality level).
  3. Personality alone is dangerous: A girl with great make up without original beauty can surprise her admirers when seen without a makeup. Doing makeup is good (personality level) but take care of things like health, drinking water, eating habits etc (that makes the beauty) is required for long term and true beauty (Character). So one will have to do makeup when required but one must be more careful in there day to day activities to develop a true beauty.
  4. Character doesn’t need preparations: When you know the subject and you have good presentation skills (Presentation skills again has to be at character level, not just for one speech but for any speech, it is developed slowly slowly), you can present yourself without any preparations.
  5. Character is the difficult part of both: Personality can be achieved quickly whereas character takes a lot of time to develop. You can learn how to distribute food to poor but make you feel for poor is a difficult and time taking job.
  6. Character is more desired: Character is more desired as a man with character can be taught the personalty but not vice-verse.
  7. Don’t be discouraged for character: I don’t feel good about the subject so whats the point in learning it. This is a common question. We all went through this at times but after reading it for a while (without much understanding) we started feeling it. There are many who comes to Church/Temple just for fun but someday the start feeling about it. There continuous actions (personality) taught their inner self(Character). So never get discouraged about not having the character just keep working with personality and keep focusing on developing character. When we worked in SEO field, at times we did not understand what we were doing, we just did what was instructed to us. BUT WE WENT BACK HOME AND LEARNED THE WHY PART OF WORK. So slowly we started developing the character.

Final word: Personality is very much required to get the work done. Character is very much required for long term and for unprepared times (Unprepared is the key, so keep developing everything at character level)

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Not happy? Best formula for happiness (With calculator)

I see our driver going really crazy when it is 9pm. He gets off most of the day, he comes at 9:30 am and goes back and only returns at 6:00 pm. He gets a lot many free hours (even sometimes just 30 mins of work in a day) but still on Sunday (or Saturday sometimes) he need to work for 12 hours (that is what he is paid for, contract says 12 hours per day).

There are many people who gets frustrated (including you and me). Is there a way out? Yes ofcourse. Are you getting frustrated at office? Are you frustrated because you have to work extra hours? Are you frustrated because you are not paid well?

Are you unhappy because …..

  1. your pay is less
  2. you need to work extra
  3. your quality of job is not good
  4. your family is not spending time with you.
  5. or some other reasons

We are unhappy because we are expecting wrong

For all the unhappiness and frustrations, I have only one reason. Wrong expectations. Let’s take an (real) example:

Mr X was really happy with his 30k per month salary, he was in one of the top bands in the company. His happiness turned to unhappiness in just a single day when he talked to his 2 friends about the salary. Both of them got lucky and grabbed an opportunity in a new MNC for 90k per month. When Mr X compared his salary with his friends to see a difference of 60k, he was just not ready to go happy. Did anything change in the world except Mr X’s expectations?

It happens even more often when we visit our relatives and friends. We start expecting a bigger car, bigger house, better family relationships, bigger happiness, better kids and so on.

Is it wrong to expect something better?

No, not at all! Not at all! There is nothing wrong in expecting something better but it is absolutely wrong not to expect something lower than your expectations.

It is good to expect an AC room to work but it is not right to not to expect a non-AC room for work. It is good to expect a good job but it is not right to not expect a non-job period.

What is needed Vs What is expected

Because of my loans I need close to Rs 25000 per month to live ok but my expectation per month is Rs Rs 1,00,000 (as my previous salary was something like this). If I live on my expectation I won’t be happy untill I earn 1,00,001 but if I live on what is needed (the most minimal expectation) then I will certainly we quite happy with Rs 30,000 per month. So I am currently focusing on Rs 30,000 per month by teaching students and doing other things (for atleast 2 months).

We compare with one parameter when our lives are with multi-dimensions

I had talks with many people (even my parents) who come over comparing one good thing about somebody. Example: “See how rich their kids are” or “See how studious are monu and sonu”. If you are ask back “How happy are their parents with the richness of their kids?”, “How often do they meet together?”, “How healthy are they?” and so on ….. “How bad are monu and sonu at parties?” “How bad are monu and sonu at football” and so on …

Mr X in the above example did not compare working hours, did not even compare with other friends to get a better picture of market salary.

Generally we compare and put our expectations on the best things from 100s of people we meet. We want to be rich like Bill Gates and privacy as our next door neighbors. We want beauty as Ash and eating habits like a foodie.

3 tips to go happy (more tips will follow)

  1. Setting the right expectation: You need to cross check your expectations and redo some. Religious people go unhappy when they fall sick (or something bad happens to them) as they were not expecting it from God.
  2. Reduce the loss: We all go unhappy for any loss, loss of our family time, loss of money, material etc. I was standing in an Auto Rickshaw stand when one of my junior jumped in front of me. He called a taxi and pushed me in, we talked and went on. He got down after sometime and offered me money but I refused to take (Life is more than money, right 🙂). I was on a tight budget. I got down home and felt unhappy for Rs 120 (don’t remember the exact amount, something like 120). Then I calculated my usual expense (Rs 10 + 5 + 5 = Rs 20), then calculated the friends expense (Rs 10, which I had to pay anyway). Since it was raining, so I had to spend more than usual may be another 20. So over 50 I had to spend anyway. So my loss is 120-50 = 70. Which is ok :), so you can reduce the loss at times by recalculating few things.
  3. Writing down the trouble list: If you can write the list of issues that are troubling you then you can solve it even easily by setting a new expectation for each of the item in the list.

Coming back to driver

Driver can go happy if he expects that in 3 days he will have to work over 12 hours and rest 4 days he will have to work for just 2 hours a day. He will be much happy person in life. I used to do this at office. I always expected that I need to leave at 8pm (instead of 7pm) and every time I left at 7:45pm, I was happy that I am leaving early.

Share your own go happy tips

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Guest Authors come over

Want to share some thoughts about HR (anything that has to do with Personal development, personal experiences etc). Please drop us an email or comment to this blog. We will certainly get back to you really soon.

If you think Blog posting is tough, think again

Forget English, forget your writing skills, it is all about communicating your experiences, thats it :). I remember a presentation where my friends got the highest marks even when they spoke like a Child yet to start her English classes. Reason: We understood what they wanted to express.

“The best of best is useless if that doesn’t match the requirement.”


So come over, write the way you want. Share your experience when you travel, share your experience when think of love, anything and everything.

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We are back ! Now it is full time HR blog

A lot of my friends were asking me to restart my HR blog. Finally I had to get back to writing HR blogs. When I say HR, don’t confuse it with Human Resource management at your office. Here I mean, anything to do with personal development, sharing experiences of life and everything related to human life.

Few Changes to our HR blog

  • We have changed the URL, so that I can use one website and it will be easy for people to remember the domain than going from one place to the other.
  • I am big fan of integration, so I integrated it with my whole system at SEO for clients. Merged the databases (with a different prefix to wordpress tables), took the same template, same plugins and lot more of technical work.

Biggest change: Will be open for Guest Authors

I will be taking interviews, also we will have a lot of guest postings.

It will be a lot more fun.

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Spirituality is not boring – We generally drink the strongest

The blogger in me is still alive :). Just got a mail from Guy Kawasaki as a reply for an interview request and was going through his blog after some real long time. I got this link for his blog http://www.mppcfamily.org/app/w_page.php?id=49&type=section (Warning: A spiritual website, please don’t visit if you think you are not spiritual 🙂 ). I heard some minutes and I thought of recommending it to others. Don’t worry, its not going to hurt you :).

SEO for clients
These days I am working on http://www.SEOforClients.com, will explain more about it in a week time. I was searching inside me and asking me this question again and again, “What the hell I want to do in my life?” (Dare you ask anyone else, you will get all philosophical talks, ask yourself the simple way and keep asking). I am almost there (I think I am almost there), will let you know. Concerning Spirituality, we have made spirituality too scary for many (As we offer the strongest drinks, “Don’t do any evil or you will go to hell“). Every time I talk to a non spiritual man about spirituality, I feel comfortable but when I talk to a spiritual person (few exceptions are there) about the same, I feel a little scared of hitting the wrong toe. I am scared of people who are taught spirituality by others but I have so much respect for people who have learned spirituality, from their own experiences and other’s experiences.

According to me, spirituality is a lot different and amazingly attractive. I don’t see it to be boring. It becomes boring when it becomes a religion, a community affair, a ritual. I am a Christan and I strongly believe in the teachings and the law but I don’t forget to check the context of the content. At http://mysoul.in/, I did say (and I repeat it here) that “At times we feel that spirituality is boring and only for some but in reality, we all are born with great level of spirituality. Spirituality is very personal according to me”.

I thought of writing very little but the hands are moving really fast, in this last para I will share some of the things I learned from Bible that changed (and is changing) my life in amazingly positive way:

  1. Don’t judge others: (Matt 7:1-3)
    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” I have realized that at many times we judge others with the very little information we have. I keep using this sentence in my professional life (esp during interview rejections), “I am no one to judge you whether you are good or bad but just based on the interview I feel, its completely my personal opinion, may not be right, that currently there are better candidates available for this job profile. So, I am saying a no to you. I again repeat, that its not how good you are but how better you were in this current competition for the current profile. Thanks.”. At times we need to take a decision but there are many many occasions where we sit of the Judge’s chair unnecessarily.
  2. Forgive and you will be forgiven: (Luke 6:37) – Spirituality is a lot more about sacrifice. I feel you can’t forgive without a sacrifice. Someone pushes you out of the queue and takes the taxi. You deserved it, you should have got it but ……. Even if you shout at the person, its all legal and accepted. But forgiving needs a lot more, it needs to be practiced. From my experience I can tell you that I feel a lot better when I smile at the person and say, “Ok! May God bless you. I will take the next cab”. I am selfish and I forgive as I feel better 🙂 and it allows me to focus on better things in life.
  3. Hey we are all different: (Romans 14:15) “If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died.” I think I haven’t read any powerful message than this about spirituality. It needs a whole new post to describe this.
  4. There is a God and it is not you. God came to love and give life, not to destroy you 🙂 (John 3:16) – “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,[a] that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”
  5. Its not about perfection but the journey towards it.
  6. Lets not do good for rewards but do good as it is good. (Reaching this level is a dream for all of us. I don’t want to do good to go to heaven but I want to do good as it is good.)
  7. Spirituality can’t be taught but it can be learned.
  8. Anything that doesn’t change you from inside is just an attempt that hasn’t produced the desired result. Try again. (If by going to Church, you haven’t changed yourself from inside then go again and again till you don’t change yourself from inside. Going to Church and changing yourself from inside, both go hand in hand and is more important when taken together)

Ok, enough! I am just too simple to share advance thoughts on spirituality. You might like to visit http://www.mppcfamily.org/app/w_page.php?id=49&type=section at times. Have a very safe and blessed week. Do let us know if you have any prayer request (I believe in praying, register and put your prayer request or even feel free to drop an email.) Thanks.

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LETTER TO PRIME MINISTER

(I got this through email)

Dear Mr. Prime minister

I am a typical mouse from Mumbai. In the local train compartment which has capacity of 100 persons, I travel with 500 more mouse. Mouse at least squeak but we don’t even do that.

Today I heard your speech. In which you said ‘NO BODY WOULD BE SPARED’. I would like to remind you that fourteen years has passed since serial bomb blast in Mumbai took place. Dawood was the main conspirator. Till today he is not caught. All our bollywood actors, our builders, our Gutka king meets him but your Government can not catch him. Reason is simple; all your ministers are hand in glove with him. If any attempt is made to catch him everybody will be exposed. Your statement ‘NOBODY WOULD BE SPARED’ is nothing but a cruel joke on this unfortunate people of India.

Enough is enough. As such after seeing terrorist attack carried out by about a dozen young boys I realize that if same thing continues days are not away when terrorist will attack by air, destroy our nuclear reactor and there will be one more Hiroshima.

We the people are left with only one mantra. Womb to Bomb to Tomb. You promised Mumbaikar Shanghai what you have given us is Jalianwala Baug.

Today only your home minister resigned. What took you so long to kick out this joker? Only reason was that he was loyal to Gandhi family. Loyalty to Gandhi family is more important than blood of innocent people, isn’t it?

I am born and bought up in Mumbai for last fifty eight years. Believe me corruption in Maharashtra is worse than that in Bihar. Look at all the politician, Sharad Pawar, Chagan Bhujbal, Narayan Rane, Bal Thackray , Gopinath Munde, Raj Thackray, Vilasrao Deshmukh all are rolling in money. Vilasrao Deshmukh is one of the worst Chief minister I have seen. His only business is to increase the FSI every other day, make money and send it to Delhi so Congress can fight next election. Now the clown has found new way and will increase FSI for fisherman so they can build concrete house right on sea shore. Next time terrorist can comfortably live in those house , enjoy the beauty of sea and then attack the Mumbai at their will.

Recently I had to purchase house in Mumbai. I met about two dozen builders. Everybody wanted about 30% in black. A common person like me knows this and with all your intelligent agency & CBI you and your finance minister are not aware of it. Where all the black money goes? To the underworld isn’t it? Our politicians take help of these goondas to vacate people by force. I myself was victim of it. If you have time please come to me, I will tell you everything.

If this has been land of fools, idiots then I would not have ever cared to write you this letter. Just see the tragedy, on one side we are reaching moon, people are so intelligent and on other side you politician has converted nectar into deadly poison. I am everything Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Schedule caste, OBC, Muslim OBC, Christian Schedule caste, Creamy Schedule caste only what I am not is INDIAN. You politician have raped every part of mother India by your policy of divide and rule.

Take example of former president Abdul Kalam. Such a intelligent person, such a fine human being. You politician didn’t even spare him. Your party along with opposition joined the hands, because politician feels they are supreme and there is no place for good person.

Dear Mr Prime minister you are one of the most intelligent person, most learned person. Just wake up, be a real SARDAR. First and foremost expose all selfish politician. Ask Swiss bank to give name of all Indian account holder. Give reins of CBI to independent agency. Let them find wolf among us. There will be political upheaval but that will better than dance of death which we are witnessing every day. Just give us ambient where we can work honestly and without fear. Let there be rule of law. Everything else will be taken care of.

Choice is yours Mr. Prime Minister. Do you want to be lead by one person or you want to lead the nation of 100 Crore people?

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When people say dreams don’t come true, tell them about Rudy

I just finished watching this Movie called “Rudy”. I liked the movie, it is amazing but the most amazing part about this movie is that it is not a movie, it is truth. It is the story about Daniel Ruettiger who was nicknamed “Rudy”.

Rudy - Dreams do come true
I liked the punch line “When people say dreams don’t come true, tell them about Rudy”

After you watch the movie you may like to watch the original play 🙂
Rudy\'s final game

Rudy grew up in a middle class household, the third of fourteen children. He attended Joliet Catholic High School, where he played for locally famous coach Gordie Gillespie and led the team in tackles his junior and senior years.

After two years at Holy Cross, and three rejections to transfer to the University of Notre Dame, Ruettiger was accepted as a student in the Fall of 1974. It was during his time studying at Holy Cross that Ruettiger discovered he suffered from dyslexia.

Rudy harbored a dream to play for Ara Parseghian and the Fighting Irish football team, despite being merely 5′ 7″ and 165 pounds. Parseghian encouraged walk-on players from the student body. For example, Notre Dame’s 1969 starting center, Mike Oriard, was a walk-on who eventually won a Rhodes Scholarship and an NFL contract with the Kansas City Chiefs.

Ruettiger earned a place on the Notre Dame scout team, a practice-squad that helps the varsity team practice for games. Merv Johnson was the coach that was instrumental at keeping Rudy on as a scout team player.

After Parseghian stepped down after the 1974 season, Dan Devine was named head coach. In Ruettiger’s last opportunity to play for Notre Dame at home, Devine put him into a game at defensive end against Georgia Tech on November 8, 1975. In the movie Rudy, Devine is depicted as a villain, not wanting Rudy to dress for his last game; however, during the actual game, Devine reportedly came up with the idea to dress Rudy. In the final play of Ruettiger’s senior season with the Fighting Irish, he recorded a sack, which is all his Notre Dame stat line has ever shown. Ruettiger was carried off the field by his teammates following the game. Ruettiger actually played for two plays. The first time he was unable to get to the quarterback, but on the second play he sacked the Georgia Tech quarterback.

He and fullback Marc Edwards are the only players in Notre Dame history ever to be carried off the field by his teammates.

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There is Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Mumbai, Delhi terrors

I keep hearing that Terror has no religion, terror has no states, terror has no faces. Most of these sentences are by Politicians who counts on one community or the other and don’t want to leave the other communities as well. According to me such statements and believes are no solution. IT IS THE RIGHT TIME that the world understands that there is Hindu Terror, there is Muslim Terror, there is Christian Terror and also there is Mumbai or Delhi Terrors. Even there in Indian terror, Afghanistan terror, (any country) terror.
Face of terror

Once you are subjected to regular attacks, rejections, humiliations for being a part of a religion A by another religion B makes you hate the other religion B irrespective of who did it or who represented religion B. As a Muslim if one is subject to rejections or humiliations all the time by other religions then it fills up a lot of hatred inside the person for other religion. If one stays in Orrisa and being attacked for being a Christian, he/she will always look for revenge. There can be valid/invalid reasons, but it is no fair to generalized the reasons and attack everybody. In this process, revenge is taken but it turns more innocent minds to Hatred.

I always believed that Love and Hate has the power to build and destroy anything, including their own lives. As Love is subject to do anything so is hatred subject to do anything. If Love is blind so is Hatred. These people who once were innocent are now used by Extreme elements of our society for BAD ,the reason Hatred. If you study or watch movies, be it Poolan devi or any other person, they all have their own stories to tell. No one goes there and die or kill for no reasons. It is true that one step in dark may have lead one to do many more darker things, where he/she might not have direct links.

Tomorrow some of the people from Bihar who are attacked in Mumbai (Doesn’t matter who did it) will attack back some Mumbaikars (Doesn’t matter which mumbaikars). MNS or whoever was involved has sown the seeds of hatred towards mumbiakars, now some anti-social element will use it for developing their strengths. Some of the Christians who lost their loved ones in Orrisa might hit back Hindus (Doesn’t matter, whether you were a part of the group that attacked Christians in Orrisa or not). If Indians are humiliated in other countries, some will bear it, some will retaliate it and some will take strong steps motivated by their hatred.

This hatred is not limited to a religion or a state. When it is concerned with a small group they act in a small way but when it is concerned with a bigger group, it goes really big.

Who is Osama

Who is Osama(s) and what he(they) can do

Some out of these will become leaders (for valid or invalid reasons), they will inspire more to join, they will create a team, they will create another power. Now when these individuals are powered by such powerful organization (which is nothing but the group of people with valid or invalid reasons towards hatred) it becomes major threats. These organizations will then offer incentives to join their group in terms of money (People who don’t have money have hatred towards people who have money, now they also wants to join the party of rich guys by doing something for one time but unfortunately there is no time). Such organizations will keep forming. In recent times if you see there are smaller organizations getting involved in bigger attacks. With new communication models, smaller groups will gain more power.

Now what is the step forward. Do we go for an eye for an eye, turning the whole India and the world blind? Do we keep saying that there is no Muslim terror? Do we say that there is no Hindu terror? We are the reason for terror too:

  • Do not generalize: If a Muslim/Hindu/Christian attacks that doesn’t mean all Muslims/Hindus/Christians are bad. You don’t be responsible in creating another terrorist out of an innocent Muslim/Hindu/Christian. If you do, your loved ones will bear the consequences.
  • Religious leaders are criminals: If you belong to any religion and leads it upfront then you are responsible for the religion too. You need to start a movement in educating people, spreading love not hatred. People take religion and religious leader very seriously. I would have been more than happy if the front page of every newspaper is fully of Muslim/Hindu/Christian Relgious leaders explaining how their religion condemns killing innocent people. They need to take the step in educating people.
  • Love is larger than hatred: People with hatred need to find a place in society with love. We need to address the issues at local and global levels. Bring people towards talk.
  • Biggest failure – Our faith is judiciary and security systems:
    Supreme court
    We have almost lost faith in our judiciary system, the law itself is failing. It is being influenced by powerful elements of the society. Powerful people uses their power to suppress the ordinary people. Then these ordinary people become terrorists to suppress the powerful people. (Remember all the movies we saw, where a leading actor plays an anti role). Our judiciary and security system needs to become more independent and powerful. It is made for people who can’t speak not just for the one whose power can speak.
  • Don’t be rigid: Does your God tells you to kill an innocent fellow? Go ahead and reject the GOD. It is not God who is telling you to do it, it is this Bloody NON religious people who are using religion to corrupt you. We need to be aware and spread this awareness to new generations.
  • Trust the law or live in lawless land: When you decide as an individual to take law in your hand, you are termed criminal and the whole land fights against you but when the representatives of larger/stronger land takes the law in their hands it makes the land lawless. We don’t allow extremists. If people burns Indian flags in Kashmir then react, initiate the talks. If needed pluck the corrupt ones.
  • Power is for responsibility if used otherwise it is terror: Many people think that power means A STRONGER WORD, no it means more responsibility and authority for organization. The time you use the power without responsibility or to suppress something irresponsibly, it creates terror. Haven’t we heard of Terror from Bosses? In office, we are subject to hierarchies, we are paid for being lower but society we all are equal.

What God says

Religion is all about inhuman love, patience, forgiveness and suffering

How difficult is to forget a person who does something wrong to you? Very difficult. It is the religion that can help people show the perfect (sometimes a little inhuman) love, patience, forgiveness and suffering. We all are selfish people (may be once you reach self-realization stage, a little lesser), even the top most spiritual leaders. Some people forgive others because as they are told that there is reward in heaven for such love, forgiveness and suffering. It gives you power to suffer, teaches you to love others. Religion should teach these things. Religion is not about visiting God in Churches or temples at times, it is about understanding the way God wanted earth to be, a place for living in harmony. If you understand religion and believes that there is only one God then do remember that the same God has created the person whom you are going to hurt. Will a mother ever teaches her kid to kill other for any reason, how then can one expect God or religion to do so. Don’t get fooled by religious teachings, you learn your own religion.

There is more to write but this is the time when our Governments and people in charge wake up and realize that their is religious, state based terrors. If we don’t stop it then there will be more terrorist and attacks. Lets make it a point that we don’t hate somebody for being a part of community or state.